Family Forte: Awful Arugula and Failing Focus
by: Ashley Wiles –
member of Central Church of Christ

The
other day I found myself alone in Kroger with a long list. My ravenous family
of six really needed fresh produce, but, as is usual for moms of big families, there
were quite a few other things I decided to pick up while I was there. The store was crowded, but I was blessed on
this occasion to be shopping solo (a treat sometimes for a mom). In the
clogged aisles I frequently had to park my cart to the side unattended and walk
a good distance to retrieve my items. An
hour and a hundred dollars later, I had a cart full of items to unload in the
checkout lane.
Then,
the weirdest thing happened. From the
very bottom of my cart I pulled a plastic clamshell of… arugula. I don’t like
arugula. I’ve never liked the green
leafy waste of salad space. I thought I
had picked up spinach, our family’s go-to for vegetation. Normally I would try to make the best of it,
but I was pretty confident that my family would overthrow me in a child-led
revolt if arugula was found on their plates, so I asked the clerk to put it
back. I prepared to pay as he scanned my last few items, and I realized that he
was scanning a bag of Red Delicious apples. “That’s weird,” I thought. “I was sure I had picked up Topher’s favorites,
Gala apples.” My husband would have to suck it up this time
and eat the Reds, because I was pressed on Mommy time. I then handed over my coupons. The “40
cents off a bag of baby carrots” coupon beeped – “Did you buy carrots?” the
cashier queried. “Yes, I bought two bags,” I replied, so he obediently pushed
it through. I finished my payment and went home with bountiful bags of harvest
from Kroger.
At home
I unpacked and quickly became more confused. No avocados. No garlic. No
peppers. No carrots. What in the world
was going on here? It’s like someone
else did the shopping for me. Was I
suddenly possessed by some alter-arugula-eating-ego that swapped my list for
someone else’s?
Then it
hit me. Somewhere after the produce aisle, I had lost
focus and swiped a stranger’s shopping cart instead of my own. The cart had enough similar items (container
of greens, bag of apples) that I didn’t even notice that it was missing the
most important items on my shopping list. My precious produce was lost and I paid over
five Andrew Jackson’s for food I didn’t want.
On top of it all, not only was I guilty of theft but also lying (about
carrots, of all things) and committing coupon fraud.
How did
this happen? Distracted by the hustle
and bustle of the store, I thought about all the other items I could buy and
sales I could seek out. My attention
stayed on coupons and cream cheese, discounts and dairy, markdowns and meats so
that I lost sight of the primary produce goal.
If I had been really focused on
my main purpose of replenishing our produce, I think I would have realized that
I had the wrong cart.

If we’re
not careful, we can easily walk away from our cart full of marriage building
produce to chase items down other aisles that look appealing. Maybe you’re being tempted by a job promotion
requiring years of long hours in the office.
Perhaps you’re eyeballing that neighbor’s fancy new car that doesn’t fit
your family’s budget or plans. Maybe it’s
seeing others’ Disney trips, fitness routines, or home décor that has you losing
focus on the most important relationship in your cart – your marriage.
Focus
on what was originally in your cart, building and keeping your strong marriage.
Too many people realize late in life at
checkout that they have a shopping cart full of items they didn’t intend to
pick up. Even worse, they’re missing
what they started out with in the first place. If you find yourself at this place in life,
there is hope if together we return to our original focus. God can redeem even the most challenging of
relationships if we are willing to return to Him. Contact me or my husband at Central Church of
Christ in Sparta if we can help you get your cart back.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all…” – Hebrews 13:4a
Now, I wonder what the other shopper thought of my spinach
and carrots.
The word “forte” comes from the latin word “fortis” meaning strength. Our weekly Family Forte article in The Expositor is the effort of family at CentralChurch of Christ to give your family the love, care, and attention it needs to become a stronger version of itself. If we can help you in any way, please contact us at Central Church of Christ through email, topherwiles@spartacoc.com, or through our website, www.spartacoc.com.
The word “forte” comes from the latin word “fortis” meaning strength. Our weekly Family Forte article in The Expositor is the effort of family at CentralChurch of Christ to give your family the love, care, and attention it needs to become a stronger version of itself. If we can help you in any way, please contact us at Central Church of Christ through email, topherwiles@spartacoc.com, or through our website, www.spartacoc.com.