Regularly since 1990 I’ve visited that beloved optometrist who puts a funny little machine over my eyes and asks, “Which one is more in focus, one or two?” In 6th grade I received my first pair of brown and white “turtle-framed” glasses and I got a bad haircut from my older sister’s friend, a combination that set the school year off on the wrong foot. Yet, I excelled somehow, making much better grades than previous years and developing lasting friendships. Those grades & friends stayed steadily strong all the way through high school. Correcting the weaknesses that affected my focus (and getting a better haircut) led to marked improvements in my life. I know I’m not alone in that learning experience.
Vision that is rated at 20/20 is the standard for clear focus, yet many of us struggle with vision that is much weaker. When our weaknesses in our eyes cause problems where we can’t focus in the proper place or distance, studies show that it affects us in profound ways. According to www.allaboutvision.com, the lack of proper focus “can affect learning ability, personality and adjustment in school.” I was one of those students, even though I didn’t realize it at the time. In fifth grade, I almost didn’t pass my classes and struggled to get along with my teacher who thought I was lazy. When my focus was corrected with glasses in 6th grade I shot to the top of my class with straight A’s.
Focus and weaknesses are exactly what Paul was referring to when he writes to the church at Colossi, “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.” (Colossians 3:2) Paul lists several weaknesses that inhibited them from focusing on things that are above. Making the top list of weaknesses from the Colossian past are: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, desire, greed, idolatry (3:5), anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language (3:8). Indulging in these weaknesses, they were limiting their ability to focus. Indulging in these items were like adding a cataract or a stigmatism to a child’s eyes where they can’t properly focus at school. The lack of focus greatly impacted their lives.
New Year’s resolutions are all about focus. Whether you make 1, 10, or 100 resolutions, make sure those resolutions are focused on “things that are above.” Then, set goals and make plans to get rid of all those “weaknesses” that inhibit your ability to focus on those heavenly resolutions. I’d like to suggest a few resolutions that might change your year, your decade, or your life to give you a 2020 focus?
·Read the entire New Testament, Old Testament, or Bible in 2020.
·Set a 10 minute time and small place to pray every single day.
·Identify a child to mentor, empower, or encourage specifically for the year.
·Search for a church or a non-profit to invest your time and abilities into for the year.
·Commit time to a family service project for others once per month.
·Commit to studying with one person in 2020 in the hopes of leading them to the Lord’s salvation.
If you’ve looked back on the last year or last decade with regret realizing that you had life “out of focus” then now is the perfect time to make the change. Remove the weaknesses that inhibit you from focusing on “things that are above”. It will change your life, someone else’s life, and potentially the lives of generations to come.
“Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways.” – Proverbs 4:25-26
The word “forte” comes from the latin word “fortis” meaning strength. Our weekly Family Forte article in The Expositor is the effort of family at Central Church of Christ to give your family the love, care, and attention it needs to become a stronger version of itself. If we can help you in any way, please contact us at Central Church of Christ through email, topherwiles@spartacoc.com, or through our website, www.spartacoc.com.
She’s
received a litany of gifts from me including a vacuum cleaner, racquetballs,
and tickets to a Trans-Siberian Orchestra Concert over our 18 Christmases. Yet,
the best gift she can remember has left me at times feeling like a Heel and at
other times feeling like a Hercules. Even better than the way the gift
makes me feel is the Humble Hero it reminds me of. If all that feels cryptic,
it’s ok, all will soon be revealed to those of stout heart willing to persevere
through the following anecdotal explanations. The best writings reveal
their truth over time, like the unwrapping of a present.
HEEL.When you feel like a heel you believe you
have treated someone unfairly or given them less attention than they deserve in
life.I definitely felt like a big heavy
ugly heel the week after Christmas in 2004.It’s hard not to play the comparison game isn’t it?In our first Christmas as a married couple we
set some stiff limits on our noel spending.We knew those student loans weren’t going to pay themselves off, so our
money discipline led us to declare a $10 spending limit on our gifts.Now,
you and I know that it is completely unfair for a couple 20 year-olds to
compare themselves to a married couple with kids in their late 30’s, but that’s
exactly the temptation I fell prey to when a sweet lady at church made friendly
conversation with my wife.
The inquisitive well-meaning woman asked, “What did Topher buy you for Christmas?”
“Welding
gloves,” was my wife’s reply followed by, “What did your husband buy you?”
“This
jewelry,” she replied.Do I need to
explain anymore why I felt like a heel?
HERCULES.I’m sure the mythological character,
Hercules, felt pretty proud of himself when he slayed the invulnerable lion or toppled
the multi-headed hydra.I imagine him beating his chest, fist bumping
friends, and making loud guttural sounds in celebration of his monumental achievements.I may have done some of the same when I saw
my wife’s response to a Facebook survey last week.The question was, “What was the best
Christmas gift you’ve ever been given.”Her reply was, “Welding gloves.” Hercules never flexed as big as I did in that
moment.
My
wife was a domestic marvel even early on in our marriage.She poured time and effort into baking the
most delicious delights and this newlywed husband was mesmerized by her culinary
artistry and beauty like Greeks were enamored with Aphrodite.Yet, my bride wasn’t perfect and frequently
received battle scars in duels with her oven baking racks.Ashley’s arms were receiving the raw end of
the deal as she routinely seared the flesh just beyond the wrists because those
beautiful oven mitts just didn’t provide the coverage that my beloved needed. When I found red welding gloves (yes, the kind
that industrial commercial welders used) on Black Friday sale for $8, I was
excited.Their red hues even matched our
kitchen décor!The best part wasn’t the
price or the color, but the length of coverage that travelled well up onto her
forearms.The forearm branding ceased
during the next decade that she used her Christmas gift of culinary armor.
It’s
hard for beaus to buy gifts for their belles.Some ladies prefer the practical while some appreciate the pretty.One lady may treasure the thought while
another puts priority on a price-tag.God
gave us women who differ in love-languages and present preferences, and that’s just
part of the adventure as we strive to buy them the best gift to honor their
uniqueness.Sometimes your gift makes
you feel as a hero and sometimes a zero.This time, my gift was special to my wife because it fit what she
needed, matched her décor, appeased the budget, and was a complete surprise.
HUMBLE
HERO.Some of the best gifts in life are
the ones you least expected.That’s
exactly why Jesus is the best gift the world has ever seen.As you slowly unwrap the truth of Jesus through
a life of worship, prayer, and study, you start to see just how wonderful of a
gift He is. The world expects a savior
like the physically strong and striking Hercules to deliver us but we were
surprised instead to receive a man who lacked physical beauty to save us from
our sins (Isaiah 53:2).Jesus’s
sacrifice is a gift that costs exactly the price that was required of sin,
nothing more and certainly nothing less (Romans 6:23).Giving of His Son as the Christ was the surprising
gift God knew we needed most (Philippians 4:19) which causes us to rejoice
(Philippians 4:4).Jesus is the Humble
Hero that became the greatest gift the world has ever known which causes us to declare
the same as Paul.
“Thanks be
to God for his indescribable gift!” – 2 Corinthians 9:15
Of all
the great gifts you been given, from pretty to practical, fancy to festive, and
delicious to delightful, make sure this season to thank God for giving us the
Humble Hero of Jesus Christ.
The following are some of my notes from Hunter Funeral Home's annual remembrance service here in 2019.
*****
On behalf of the family at Hunter Funeral
Home, I'd like to welcome you to our annual Remembrance time. I'm Topher Wiles, minister at Central Church
of Christ. The invitation we all
received said at the top, "Someone is missing at Christmas." Those words right there bond us all together
in this community. We've all experienced
the loss of someone important in our lives.
This
year, there were memorial services for around 150 people here ranging from
infants all the way up to 101 years old.
And it doesn't matter, whether young our old, whether you've made a trip
to the funeral home 1 time or 10 times this year, when you lose someone
special, they are missed throughout your life, but especially this time of year.
The Telling of Three Tree Ornaments
Grandma Nell was so sweet when she gave us her tree about 16
years ago. That Christmas tree has seen
a lot of years and we were happy to keep putting it up year after year when she
no longer could. As our first Christmas
tree in the Wiles family, our ornaments took on the personality of the tree. We began decorating with mostly hand-me-down
ornaments donated by Grandma, my mom, sweet friends, and dirty-Santa game
winnings. Now that old tree is
completely filled with memories of sweet times and sweet people long past. I’d like to tell you about three of our
ornaments that will bless some families this year who may find some struggling
moments during the Christmas holiday season.
One of my favorite ornaments to put on the tree makes me
laugh out loud as it comes with a story.
As we pull this delicate ornament out of the box my kids wait expectantly
on the edge of their seat for the coming hilarity of the story. During our first Christmas together as
husband and wife, my Ashley decided to cheaply make ornaments for our
tree. Her chosen materials for the
ornament were cinnamon and apple sauce.
Did you know you can bake them together to make a cute star shape, bell,
or heart through which ribbon can be threaded?
Yes, we have cinnamon based ornaments that have been on our tree for 15
years. And they taste horrible. I would know, because 15 years ago I took a
bite out of one of those ornaments. They
may smell sweet, but they taste like dirt.
My kids laugh every year as I tell the story of my ornament tasting
time. Some ornamental memories make us
laugh.
I have another ornament that I alone get to hang on the tree
near the top. It’s a little blue plastic
star framing a nativity scene. It’s not
anything special, but with a family that doesn’t profess or practice a lot of
religious faith, my late Grandma Marge’s makes me smile as it signifies her own
belief in Christ. She hung it every year
at the top of her tree, and that ornament is one of the few things I have left
from my grandma who passed away 24 years ago.
When I hang the ornament I remember the sweet times of eating chicken
pot pie at the bar in her kitchen or visiting the humane society where she
worked. Some ornamental memories make us
smile.
There is another ornament that completely caught me off
guard. My mom was always crafty and
handmade so many things for us kids through our years. Annually, my mom would handmake a few new
ornaments on our tree, most of them were odd, like crocheted lollipops or paper
stars, but I kept them every year anyway and dutifully hung them on the
tree. When mom passed away in May a
couple years ago, I didn’t think a thing about those Christmas ornaments until
I started hanging them on the tree six months later. I pulled out the pink crocheted lollipop and
was surprised as tears started welling up in my eyes. I had cried little over mom’s passing, as I’ve
been a minister and hospital chaplain for years, often comforting others in the
passing of their loved ones. Yet here I
was six months later breaking down in tears remembering mom and all her
handmade ornaments. Some ornamental
memories make us cry.
Laughing, smiling, and crying are all perfectly normal
emotions during the holiday season as we remember the good times, the sweet
people, and the lives that we miss. If
you are struggling through missing a loved one this Christmas season, I want
you to know that it is perfectly ok to experience all of those emotions. There is a song on youtube from the Piano
Guys and Craig Evans called “The Sweetest Gift” that will help you in
expressing all those emotions. Simply
search for that song title and artists and you’ll be blessed with a song that
expresses some of our tough sentiments.
There's a stanza I
love in that song.
The memories flood my mind
As I place your ornament upon our tree
Although this year I have a broken heart
It gives me hope and joy as I remember where you are
One of the best
services I attended this year was simply a service of remembering.It was for an older fella who played a joke
on my family one time with his brother.That service of remembering was for Joe Pat Clark.Oh, it was funny, it was heart warming, it
was endearing.We all left grateful for
investing time there to honor Joe Pat and his family.What I'll remember most about Joe Pat is how
he looked like Santa Clause at the Holidays.
What you remember
about your loved ones at the holidays?
I remember my mom buying me a nerf gun every year for Christmas even when I was an adult.
Remembering the good times while we acknowledge our grief can be very healing.
I think David had Jeduthn do just the same thing in Psalm 77:1-13a as he laments the tough times, but ends on remembering the good times God has given.
I
cried out to God for help;
I
cried out to God to hear me.
2 When I
was in distress, I sought the Lord;
at
night I stretched out untiring hands,
and
I would not be comforted.
3 I
remembered you, God, and I groaned;
I
meditated, and my spirit grew faint.
4 You
kept my eyes from closing;
I
was too troubled to speak.
5 I
thought about the former days,
the
years of long ago;
6 I
remembered my songs in the night.
My
heart meditated and my spirit asked:
7 “Will
the Lord reject forever?
Will
he never show his favor again?
8 Has his
unfailing love vanished forever?
Has
his promise failed for all time?
9 Has God
forgotten to be merciful?
Has
he in anger withheld his compassion?”
10 Then I
thought, “To this I will appeal:
the
years when the Most High stretched out his right hand.
11 I will
remember the deeds of the Lord;
yes,
I will remember your miracles of long ago.
12 I will
consider all your works
and
meditate on all your mighty deeds.”
13 Your
ways, God, are holy.
Beyond simply recalling a memory, what else can we do to honor a loved one this time of year? Here are a few ideas.
What you can do:
Serve others in their name
Make a donation to their
favorite charity in their name
Set a vase of their loved
one’s favorite flowers in front of an empty chair
Share a memory of their loved
one and observe a moment of silence before enjoying their holiday
meal.
Prepare your loved one's
favorite dish from their recipe for the holiday meal.
In our church, we purchase poinsettias in honor of those who have passed as a reminder of special
memories with them.
Create a scrapbook of items
that remind you of your loved one.
Visit the grave-site
Watch their favorite movie or
TV show or listen to their favorite song.
Now, What are some of your ideas to honor your loved one?
One of the best ways we can honor them is to live a life they would be proud of. Linda Ellis expresses that well in her 1996 poem titled, The Dash.
I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone,
from the beginning…to the end.
He noted that first came the date of her birth
and spoke of the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
that she spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved her
know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
the cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.
So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
that can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
to consider what’s true and real
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
and more often wear a smile,
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy is being read,
with your life’s actions to rehash…
would you be proud of the things they say
about
how you spent YOUR dash?
Linda Ellis captures one of the best ways we can honor someone else, through how we live our lives.
I believe the person we should strive to honor most of all is Jesus Christ. John 14:1-6a expresses well what He's done for us that is worthy of honor.
“Do not let your
hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. 2 My Father’s house
has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going
there to prepare a place for you? 3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I
will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. 4
You know the way to the place where I am going.” 5 Thomas said to
him, “Lord, we don’t know where you are going, so how can we know the way?” 6 Jesus answered,
“I am the way and the truth and the life."
Jesus has provided us a way to the Father's house. May we remember Him and honor Him with our lives this holiday season.
In honor of those who have passed away, here are my screenshots set to background music of 3 songs. Supermarket Flowers - by Ed Sheeran Eric Clapton - Tears in Heaven Over the Rainbow - Israel Kamakawiwo'ole
It was one of the most
exhilarating moments in life, followed by three hours of disappointment.Yet, that moment illustrates perfectly our
battle with sin.
I was fully prepared for the task before me.Since it was below 20 degrees that morning, I was completely covered
head to toe in the warmest and most flexible gear I had.I’d spent weeks sighting in my bow from standing
on the bed of my truck down at a target on ground level.My arrows were straight and true, ready to
follow wherever I pointed the peep sight.
That hour in the deer stand at sunrise was pure bliss. That peaceful hour was
suddenly interrupted by rustle in the woods beyond my vision. I grunted on my
deer caller and was rewarded when a decent sized buck appeared in the woods
before me.
For those who don't hunt much, there is a specific area of vitals we want to
hit that brings about a quicker harvest and less suffering for the
animal. Shooting a deer isn’t the toughest job in the world, because it’s
a relatively big animal and those who bowhunt aren’t there just to “shoot an
animal,” we’re out in the freezing cold reenacting a time-honored hunting
practice that the world has enjoyed for a few thousand years for one purpose,
to hit within our 8” diameter mark.
The buck came within
40 feet, and when I made a little noise, he turned to give me the perfect
broadside shot. I pulled the bow back excitedly, but momentarily forgot
how to aim! I realized I wasn't laying the bowstring on my cheek, I
wasn't looking through the peepsight, and I wasn't sure which pin to use to
line up my distance!In my excitement, I
forgot how to hit my mark!I released
the arrow and immediately knew I hit him (I could see the point of impact) but
knew I missed his vitals. I shot too high and toward the rear of the animal,
missing my mark.
Over three hours and a half mile of tracking later, my church buddy and I had
to call off our search. We had lost the blood trail and had no deer meat
for the freezer. Missing by 6-9 inches of that "bullseye" mark
was enough to give me guilt in knowing that the deer went through extended
suffering that I didn't intend or want. It gave me guilt in know that I spent
over 4 hours away from my family with nothing to show for it. It gave me
grief knowing that in that moment of testing, there were no excuses, I ...
missed ... my ... mark.
If you’re not up on
your church lingo, there is a word we use that simply means, “to miss the mark.”That word is “sin.”In my handy dandy Greek dictionary, I am
given a few definitions for the way this word is used throughout the
Bible.
1) to be without a share in the prize,
2) to miss the mark,
3) to err, be mistaken,
4) to miss or wander from the path of uprightness and honour, to do or go wrong,
5) to wander from the law of God, violate God’s law.
It’s important for us
to understand this concept of sin, not as a fancy church word that gives people
a license to be judgmental, but as a word that helps us describe what happens
when we miss the mark God intended for our lives and for humanity.When the hunter misses his mark, he misses
out on the desired prize, he loses precious time on the hunt, wastes precious
resources, and causes unnecessary suffering.
Like missing the mark
for a hunter, when we humans sin, it also leaves us without a prize, losing
precious time in life, wasting our precious resources, and often causes
unnecessary suffering for ourselves and others.Consider when a man commits
adultery in his marriage, which God defines in the Bible as a “sin,” a missing
of the bullseye God intended for humanity (Hebrews 13:4).What follows is time lost, resources wasted, unnecessary
suffering for all parties involved, and the people involved missing out on one
of God’s best prizes in life, the wedded bliss that comes of a happy and
healthy marriage. In one moment of
missing the mark, sinning, a person can destroy years of preparation, of time
investment, and of love.Whether we’re
talking about adultery, drunkenness, gossip, or angry words, each of the sins
misses the mark for what God intended for humanity.When we allow our families to indulge in “missing
the mark” we’re setting them up for a similar disappointment that I experienced
when I sinned from my deer stand in the woods.
This is partly why I
continue to daily read the Bible with my children, involve them in Christian based
activities, surround them with positive Christian influences, take them to be
part of an active church, and discipline them in small areas where they miss
the mark.It’s an effort to strengthen
my family by preparing them for a life to routinely hit the bullseye.
Now that you
understand sin from a hunter’s perspective, please understand the core of
Christianity and why Jesus came.Just as
no trained & disciplined hunter can hit the bullseye of a target perfectly every
time he shoots every day of his life, so too do we often miss the mark in
life.
Romans 3:23 tells us that all people have missed the mark and Romans 6:23 tells
us there is a stiff penalty for our sin.Yet God, in all His great providence, gave us Jesus who paid the price
for our missing of marks, so that we can enjoy the prize anyway.
Friends, whether
hunting or raising a family, may your aim be true this season so that you hit
all your marks.Also let your heart be
grateful for Jesus who not only straightens our aim but gives us hope of
eternal life even when we miss.Thank
God for Jesus. "The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life in
Christ Jesus our Lord." - Romans 6:23
My boys were starving and needed nourishment from me. As I overheard
their argument pushing their tones to get higher pitched, their volumes louder,
and their reasoning to falter, I knew they needed life giving nourishment that
a father can provide.
Our world is starving for something of which you and I have a potentially
unlimited supply. You can get it by simply deciding to have it. You can give it
away freely to thousands of people and still have plenty to give yourself. In
fact, the more you give away, the more you will be surrounded with it. This elusive,
yet potentially unlimited substance is simply “a positive encouraging word.”
So, why is encouragement in such short supply? We live in a society where people
gravitate toward the bad news; the shocking, the fear-inspiring, and the awful.
Too many of us are constantly on the look out for something negative or
shocking to talk about or promote. The news media is too often a prime example
of the focus on the negative (although I’m excited that the Expositor is one
outlet seeking something different!).This influx of negativity leaves us like the
child who eats only bacon and twinkies. Their appetite is satiated for a while, but
their body is mal-nourished.
Even though there exist unsung heroes doing their best to share goodness
in the world, statistically, it rarely is reported in the news and our social
media.Families as a result of our
cultural consumption are drowning in the flood of negativity and unless we as
individuals and a community take immediate action, we too will drown in this world’s
negative onslaught.Yet, there is hope and
we can provide the poisitve nourishment needed.Our families, our friends, and our neighbors are starving for positive
encouraging words that you and I can give.
The argument was strengthening between my sons as I rounded the
corner into the room wearing my “serious” face. A stern look was all it took to
gain the attention of my boys and stop all bickering.They expected me to lower the boom and bring
a fiery wrath that any dad is capable of.What came next from my mouth shocked them in a new way and completely
changed the direction of our day.
“You are loved,” were the first words I spoke after a long moment of
silence.Then, I followed with
encouragement, sharing with them the care I believe they were capable of, the
level of respect I thought they deserved from each other, and how much their
brothers, their mother, and I really loved them. We wrapped up our correction
by having the boys share heartfelt compliments to each other and stories of
when we felt loved by each other.The
boys needed no negative consequences this time to remind them of the lesson,
they only needed encouragement. The hugs and smiles that followed the escalating
argument reminded me how nourishing encouraging words can be.
Photo Credit: CrackerBarrel.com
As
you gather around the table this holiday season greeting loved ones with
bellies full of turkey, stuffing, and potatoes, remember that they may still be
starving for something more than food.Too
often, tables are filled with sweet food, but the air is soured by harsh
sentiment and negative news.Your family
needs you to be a source of the positive, encouraging, and loving nourishment.You have the power to feed starving families.
Recently I was writing about the nourishment of positive words, when words
of poetry began to flow from my pen.The following
is an original *Shakespearean-styled sonnet that you may need to hear or share,
titled, "You are Loved."
Ever and anon, be sure; you are loved.
For as the Son rises, one realizes.
This awesome truth remains; It is not shoved,
But gently trickles into the wisest.
You are loved, by the great Father above,
Through whom is every good and perfect gift,
By Spirit who showed in likeness of a dove,
Whose blessed peace and comfort kindles so swift.
You are loved, by the Sacrificial Son,
Who dared care not if you were rich nor poor,
By His blood your full salvation is won.
This loving effort stands forevermore.
So share your love, due to the gift granted,
And watch love grow by the seed you planted.
"Take care, brethren, that there not be in any one
of you an evil, unbelieving heart that falls away from the living God. 13 But
encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called
“Today,” so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin." - Hebrews 3:12-13
*(A Shakespearean sonnet contains 14 lines of 10 syllables
following the rhyme scheme: ABAB CDCD EFEF GG.)
The word “forte” comes from the latin word “fortis” meaning strength. Our weekly Family Forte article in The Expositor is the effort of family at Central Church of Christ to give your family the love, care, and attention it needs to become a stronger version of itself. If we can help you in any way, please contact us at Central Church of Christ through email, topherwiles@spartacoc.com, or through our website, www.spartacoc.com.
Has it really been 5 years since David Letterman retired from Late
Show entertainment?
Recently, Dave was on the Ellen Degeneres show chatting about the
era that ended in 2015 when he finished his 33 years in nighttime TV with a
simple, "That's pretty much all I
got ... thank you and goodnight." When
we look back through social media at the moment, some fans responded with tears,
others offered jokes, and a few
responded with thanks. I am particularly struck by Conan O’Brien’s tweet
(did you know he still has a show?), which sums up much of how our culture has
shifted in the post-modern era.
"It's
absolutely absurd to thank David Letterman for all he's done in a tweet.
But that's the world we live in now. #ThanksDave" – Conan O’Brien
That tweet was
retweeted 2,900 times. Yes, “retweeted”. That means
some people were too lazy to write their own 20 second grateful tweet and just clicked
the retweet button on Conan’s. Conan, true to form, was making commentary
and his followers illustrated well “the world we live in now.” It’s a
world of fast tweets and short-lived gratitude, trending today and retreating
tomorrow.
Yet there are some
who choose to be different than “the world we live in now.”Last week I received a special treat in the
mail, a handwritten “Thank You” card from my friend John.Sure, I catch the occasional text, tweet, snap
or email in my inbox after serving someone but none of them feel the same as
reading that handwritten note from John.I don’t save screenshots of text
message gratitude, but I have a box full of handwritten thank you cards from
the last 20 years of serving others, and I’m grateful for them.
Who have you
thanked lately?I am convinced that the
mayor, secretaries, firemen, law enforcement, coffee baristas, county
commissioners, newspaper editors, ministers, librarians, social workers, church
elders, teachers, janitors, physical trainers, principals and more deserve greater
thanks than a text message.Those who
serve us on a regular basis deserve our long-lasting gratitude.
I believe this
strongly enough that I’ve changed my own habits to strengthen myself and my own
feelings of gratitude.If you are like
me, fully immersed in the digital age, then you are familiar with project and
time management apps like Google Calendar, Reminders, and Tasks.At the top of my daily digital to-do list
every Monday through Thursday (my traditional office days) is the task, “Write
a Thank You Note.”Conveniently located
next to my desk is a stack of my own custom designed thank you cards (thanks to
designer Chelsea Hilton & Brady Printing). Next to that stack is a roll of stamps.It takes me merely 5 minutes a day to snag a
notecard, write a personal thank you to a friend, and drop it in the mail.
How does this
translate into Family Forte (family strength)?First, by training yourself to be more grateful your gratitude will rub
off on others, including your own family.Moreover, you can also intentionally train your family to be more
grateful with just a few small efforts such as:
·Putting a pack of “Thank You” cards in your kids’ Christmas
stockings each year;
·Counting your blessings together before bed every night;
·Making a “Turkey Ticket” for Thanksgiving, a receipt roll that
is one centimeter long for each year of their life, that they must fill up with
things they are grateful for as an entry ticket to your Thanksgiving meal;
·Creating a “Thankful ABC’s” chart to fill out every Sunday night
before bed as a family, naming 25 things you’re thankful for from the previous
week (we’ll give you a pass on the letter “x”);
·Giving your family a Gratitude Scavenger Hunt during warm
weather in which your family members walk the neighborhood (individually or in
teams) and take photos with specific listed items or neighbors to be grateful
for.
I’m convinced that developing
gratitude in myself and my family is some of the best invested time of my day,
only to be topped by the time I invest in prayer in which I always thank God
first (Prayer is also good to put in your daily task list!).
Our Holy Scripture
handed down from the Father through His Spirit gives us a view of gratitude
that is much more than a retweet or social media post. Read the following
“Text Messages” from Scripture about gratitude.
“And whatever you
do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks
to God the Father through him.” - Colossians 3:17
“I do not cease to
give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers.” – Ephesians 1:16
“The one who offers thanksgiving as his sacrifice glorifies me; to one who
orders his way rightly I will show the salvation of God!” – Psalm 50:23
Gratitude can be practiced in
many long lasting ways. It can displayed by doing something in
someone’s name (Col 3:17). It is done by praying for a person (Eph
1:16). It is shown by sacrificing for someone (Ps
50:23). If you’re thankful for someone today, how about doing something
to honor them, praying for them, or sacrificing five minutes for them by
writing a note. A retweet is a start, but real gratitude is more – it is
the calling of the community of Christ.
“I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.” – Ephesians 4:1b
The word “forte” comes from the latin word “fortis” meaning strength. Our weekly Family Forte article in The Expositor is the effort of family at Central Church of Christ to give your family the love, care, and attention it needs to become a stronger version of itself. If we can help you in any way, please contact us at Central Church of Christ through email, topherwiles@spartacoc.com, or through our website, www.spartacoc.com.
41 And when the ten heard it, they began to be indignant at James and John.42 And Jesus called them to him and said to them, “You know that those who are considered rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them.43 But it shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant,44 and whoever would be first among you must be slaveof all.45 For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” - Mark 10:41-45 Enjoy our online sermon notes here:
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