Fertilizer and Stethoscopes
For Growing Love
by: Topher Wiles
Life with four children and multiple volunteer committments
can be a little hectic and tiring, but absolutely wonderful if we keep our
focus. This past Saturday leaped off the
blocks with a blazing start. The Warrior
Senior Project 5k Run with Gabriel and Ethan became my first hurdle toward the
main event for the day. The rain let up
just enough for me to exhaust my legs on White County hills in an effort to
support our seniors and earn some new hardware to hang around my neck. From there I dashed over to our church for Central’s
children’s ministry event, Pancakes and Pajamas. While I stuffed my belly with pancakes and
filled my heart with children’s conversations, my legs were growing sore. When the pancakes were gone, field
maintenance and throwing batting practice with the Junior Varsity Warriors
Baseball Team left the rest of my body
stiff and feeling done for the day. However,
I still had an errand run in Cookeville with Micah before the focal point of my
day. By the time I was getting dressed
for the Daddy Daughter Dance with Clara hosted by the Sparta Rescue Squad, my
legs were screaming at me and my throwing arm was protesting while tying a tie. The rest of my body agreed, it would rather
have gone to bed than to have this date.
Yet, this date with my daughter was worth it all as she
melted my heart and we grew our love for each other. How can you grow your love? Here are two quick ideas that worked for this
dead-tired dad.

Sadly, some of the dads in attendance didn’t get the memo. I witnessed some fathers thumbing through
social media while their daughters ate their meal in silence. I saw dads gathering around the water cooler like
break time at work while their dearests earnestly watched and waited at the
table for their return. I looked on as
men moved through the motions of a date while their daughters dreamed of having
their full attention.
I’m grateful to say that the majority of men in attendance
were active participants in growing their love by putting away all distractions
and focusing their conversation, attention, and efforts toward their darling
daughters. That daddy attention acted
like fertilizer in the relationship. Growing
love toward your child involves putting away distractions that act like an killing
spray to a blossoming flower.

THE RESULTS - I
was blessed by discarding distractions and listening to her heart through a
night filled with unforgettable smiles, sweet butterfly kisses on the cheek,
and those special “I love you” words dropped in at the most opportune of
times. I vividly remember spinning Clara
with her flaring dress around on the dance floor while her head was tilted
back, eyes closed, and that beautiful smile beaming bright. You might say, “She’s only two – she won’t
remember the date later,” and you’re right: she won’t remember the specifics of
our evening a few years from now. But
what she will know is that her daddy
loves her and cherishes her and treats her with care and respect. Winning her heart now lays a firm foundation
for the sometimes shaky adolescent years. Even when she faces changing hormones and
sometimes-fickle peer groups, she will have the safe sturdiness of her father’s
love to support her.
Fathers, it isn’t always easy (especially in the midst of a
full schedule and an aging body) to take the time now to show your children
that they are important and loved, but you can still do it by discarding
distractions and listening to their hearts. Strive to let them know that your love is gentle
and tender as well as dependable and strong. You’re laying the groundwork now for a strong
future for your children.
“And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts
of children to their fathers.” – Malachi 4:6a
The word “forte” comes from the latin word “fortis” meaning strength. Our weekly Family Forte article in The Expositor is the effort of family at CentralChurch of Christ to give your family the love, care, and attention it needs to become a stronger version of itself. If we can help you in any way, please contact us at Central Church of Christ through email, topherwiles@spartacoc.com, or through our website, www.spartacoc.com.